The often-dreaded Valentine’s Day is only one day away! It’s the time of year where singles may get down or even depressed about the love that they don’t presently have but may desperately crave. It’s the time of year where some singles question, “what’s wrong with me that I haven’t yet found love?”.
While it can be easy to self-loathe or feel sorry for yourself, let this be the time of year to re-evaluate whether you are truly loving the most important person in your life…yourself. In my practice, I often work with clients who so badly want to find someone who will love them and with whom they can love back…but sometimes it can be for the wrong reasons. Examples of this can be:
- You want someone outside of yourself to validate that you are worthy.
NEWS ALERT! If YOU don’t feel like you are worthy, why should anyone else?
- You think it will solve your sense of loneliness.
NEWS ALERT! The best company you can find is your own. Being comfortable with being alone has a greater likelihood of setting you up to find a healthy relationship where the two of you complement one another instead of becoming dependent on one another’s company.
I love working with clients who struggle to love themselves because watching them transform from self-conscious with low self-esteem to self-assured with more confidence is incredible. You are already everything you need and more, it’s often just a matter of acknowledging it and owning it. Embrace the good, the bad and the ugly because when you put it altogether, it’s actually pretty fabulous!
Focus your attention on those qualities that you love about yourself. Are you a good friend? A kind stranger? A hard-working employee? A lover of animals? Make a list of the things that make you awesome. Expand your context to those outside of yourself. How would your friends describe you? Your family? Your neighbors? Your colleagues? If you’re not sure, ask them!
Owning what’s awesome about you not only feels good, but you will carry around a brighter and happier energy wherever you go!
Do you struggle with loving yourself? Go ahead and give me a call or email me today to set up an appointment. The journey to loving yourself more is…amazing.